As much as we’d all like to believe, there is a handful of couples that aren’t destined for the happily ever after story. We all want the happily ever after but if the marriage simply doesn’t work then there isn’t much you can do about it. When a relationship ends in divorce there is often a lot at stake for both parties. 

Divorce is complicated. The simple truth is it can be messy and frustrating for both parties to go through, but there are things that you simply don’t have to worry about when it comes to family law. Below are the 5 myths most people think of when going through family law. 

5 Myths in Family Law

When you think of a divorce you may think of one of these myths. Here are the top 5 to know if you are going through a divorce. 

  1. Pro Mom

Often both moms and dads believe that courts prefer mothers to fathers. That the fathers will get minimal parenting time with the kids while the mother raises them. The law is clear that there is no preference to gender and it comes down to who can take the best care of the children. 

  1. Children Will Be Heard 

Most likely your child will not step foot in court. The court tries to keep children out of the legal process to protect them. There are ways to make your child heard if they are able to make a reasoned and independent opinion though, but often the court wants to keep them out for their protection. 

  1. You Can Do it Yourself 

This is both a myth and not. Yes, you can do it yourself but if it isn’t done right in the beginning then you could be in hot water. Mistakes aren’t tolerated in family law and they could be costly in the long run. 

  1. Lawyers Increase Conflict 

While there are bad apples in every barrel, often that isn’t the case. Your lawyer is there to help you and help you get the most out of this rough situation. Often they can help mediate between you and your spouse too. A good lawyer is going to let you know if what you want is impossible to get or unreasonable. 

  1. Your Child can Decide 

No. The court will not permit the child to make decisions regarding parenting time. The court is going to do what they feel is best for you and your family. It is your responsibility to follow the court orders regarding that as well.